Today, I have some ideas on how you can learn to treat yourself more kindly in order to raise your self esteem. Here is a simple tip that you can start:
1) Make sure to spend time doing things you enjoy. If you have low self-esteem, often you don’t do things you want to simply because you’re either too busy trying to please others and don’t have time, or because you haven’t paid attention to what you really want to do, to what will make you relax and have fun.
From this point on, start making time to do things you love, such as pursuing creative endeavors, socializing with friends and family, reading books you’ve always wanted to, watching a favorite movie, spend time on journaling hopes and dreams, or taking part in hobbies you enjoy. What you do doesn’t really matter, except that you have to have fun and you actually have to do it.
This might be hard to do at first, because you might feel guilty about taking time for yourself. Perhaps you even feel a bit greedy or selfish because you want to do nice things for yourself. Ignore all of that! Do those things anyway. As time passes and you continue to do these things, you’ll begin to be more comfortable in spending time just on you and in turn helping to raise your self esteem.
Further, plan your course of action for the day – month – year! Be it with regard to meeting new people or tackling tough conditions. The better prepared you are, the better you will perform. There will always be some unforeseen circumstances but you will be able to make it through them if you have a focused plan of action.
You can also instill a higher level of assurance by dressing for confidence. Go for the style that you feel comfortable in. your clothes should not be some sort of a hiding place for your personality. Dress to impress. “As an extension of the body, clothing can affect body image perception and functions to strengthen or weaken the body-image boundary. Clothing acts as a “second skin” in establishing the physical boundaries of the self” (Horn, 1968).
Personal appearance is a major factor in building up self-esteem. If you have the surety, your clothes will not matter. However in the majority of cases, it is observed that ‘power dressing’ is a very effective especially for those with low self-esteem. The more people notice how balanced, confident and interesting you are, the more they are likely to follow you.
Consequently your self-worth shoots up. Most people, especially women tend to feel awkward about their body if they are less than perfect. It would be interesting to note that it’s a very minute number of women the world over who have a perfect figure. The most important thing is to feel comfortable in what you wear and carry it off confidently. Clothes today are available in all sizes. Find the perfect fit and don’t follow trends just for the heck of it.
There are many ways and ways to improve self-esteem. You just have to find out what works best for you and then follow the path to a more confident you!
